The mask is mockery. They all know who she is.
And now they all know what she is.
Squirm.
Month: June 2013
“Now, sweetheart, don’t be shy.”
Later, he’ll be in to serenade you with that guitar. Because he is a romantic at heart, after all.
For the past week or so, I’ve basically had this thing running on a queue. Because my life’s been pretty hectic, but in a lot of good ways. I graduated, moved home for the summer and just about none of that has even begun to sink in.
So, I hope you’ve all been well and I promise to be more of a presence around here once reality catches up with me.
Kinky
Now don’t flinch, dear.
I’ve got a hunch she’s a little bit of a brat.
It’s always a little awkward when her old friends come over.
Although I get this treatment already without them, I want these panties.
BDSM PLAYGROUND (INFORMATION): 10 Red Flags of Bad or Abusive Dominants (Very Important)
LinkBDSM PLAYGROUND (INFORMATION): 10 Red Flags of Bad or Abusive Dominants (Very Important)
By lunaKM on February 20, 2009
Please go here and read all of the other articles in this post Luna did!
http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/02/10-red-flags-of-bad-or-abusive-dominants/
Predators and abusive Dominants are everywhere. I’ve seen them and been subjected to them in a casual relationship. Thankfully I escaped into a kind and loving relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But how do you know the person you are with is an abuser and not just a strict Dominant?
I’m going to give you 10 Red Flags that can indicate you are with an abusive person. This is no where near an exhaustive list. There are many many more flags out there. See the list of other essays below if you want a more in depth article.
- Are you afraid of your Dominant?
- Do they threaten to leave or abandon you of you don’t submit?
- Do they threaten violence if you don’t submit?
- Does the Dominant give you expensive gifts to get you to do something you don’t honestly want to do?
- Have you gained or lost a lot of weight while being with the Dominant? (this does not include intended weight loss or gain)
- Do they make you feel guilty if you can’t or won’t do something?
- Does the Dominant make you feel ugly and unwanted?
- Have you ever felt like you have been raped after having sex with the Dominant?
- Do they ignore your needs, such as medical treatment, food or clothing?
- Have they ever questioned your loyalty when you question their behavior?
- (Yup, I could keep going…) Does your Dominant ignore your limits or safe words?
Other Warning Signs
There are many many more that can also be key signs that the person you are with is dangerous. Other essays about dangerous and abusive Dominants that I recommend reading are:
- Red Flags, Warning Signs and Intuition: Learning to Trust Your Instincts, Part One by Norische
- Red Flags by Turning Point.com
- Red Flags for Abusive Relationships by The Red Flag Campaign
- Eight Red Flags for New Relationships and Possible Date Abuse
- Do You Know The Red Flags by Dangers of Internet Dating
- Red Flags by Crisis Convention
- Playing and Staying Safe from Come Hither added 4/13/09
Where to Find Help
It is important that you find out for yourself and then get out. There are local and national agencies to help you get away safely and start your life over again.
I strongly support the National Leather Association – International Domestic Violence Project in their efforts to bring awareness of abuse in BDSM relationships.
If you are experiencing a domestic violence emergency please call 911.
If you need help or assistance with domestic violence please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at:
1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-787-3224 TTY
Stay safe, protect yourself and get out. You do not need to stay in an abusive relationship; especially with children.