with random men calling me “sweetie,” “sweetheart” and “young lady” when I’m clearly wearing my work clothes and heels (but also when I’m wearing my pajamas and I answer the door for a delivery.)
I’m just generally tired of men just deciding they have the right to infantilize me.
The waiting is always the worst of it.
Hi, girlfriendbdsmgallery. I’m always flattered when somebody likes a photo of me enough to reblog it, but I find it super troubling that you’ve reblogged my image and tagged it “exgf.”
I really hope, and I am giving you the benefit of the doubt here, that you’ve tagged it this because my back and ass remind you of an ex-girlfriend (though you have also tagged it things like girlfriend, slave, etc), and not because you are trying to fetishize this image as some sort of ex-girlfriend revenge porn photo.
The photos I put on my tumblr are both taken and posted consensually. They are pieces of my relationships with other people, with my body, with my sexuality.
Ex-girlfriend revenge porn is not something I want my images associated with. It’s not something I want to exist. It’s not something I want sexualized. It is a brutal form of shaming an individual for being sexual and an outright betrayal of trust.
Everyone is allowed to have fantasies, though I ask that you not only refrain from imposing something so problematic and harmful on a picture of me taken consensually by the man I love, but also consider that it is perhaps irresponsible to portray the violation and shaming of a former partner as something for sexual consumption.
Once again, I hope it was just that I remind you of an ex-girlfriend.
Basically.
I’m going to do such dirty things to you.
Pictures like this make me freaking melt.
He leaves very early tomorrow morning.
I am so, so proud of him.
But that doesn’t mean this doesn’t still sting.
Current status.
Hey, that’s no way to say goodbye.
Ugh.
Trigger warning: rape, rape culture
One of the really unfortunate side-effects of this lifestyle is that there are actually sick, terrible people that can slip under the radar. I’ve had a partner in the past that did some pretty bad things by me, but I thought I had learned.
While nothing happened to me with this person, I’ve had some suspicions confirmed today to an unimaginable degree. Basically, a relationship of his that I thought was a little problematic was actually foul. He’s a person I’ve written about very sparsely on here, I hadn’t even given him a name. And today I met someone else who has played with him, and she revealed something to me about his primary relationship.
I’m horrified for having trusted this person, for even having touched them and let them touch me. I’m terrified that this person can blend in with a group and can target other people. I’m scared that we still live in a culture where his actions could be construed as “ambiguous.”
I don’t know, guys. I’m just really disgusted.
Fackkkkkkk.