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Was Selfie a triumph of television? On one hand, no. Its writing was trite, its portrayal of a generation was more or less archetypical, and its episodes left a lot to be desired.

But it’s probably the first time I’ve ever seen a relationship that looks like mine on television. I fussed so much about when I saw porn like that, and then to see that sort of representation on mainstream television meant a whole lot to me. To the point that I watched this fairly average show just to add my head to those demonstrating to sponsors that, hey, yeah, you can make an Asian man complex and sexy and give him a white woman as a love interest and we’ll watch it. Because representation is fucking important.

So, I’m disappointed to see it go. Especially since things were heating up last episode.

(Look at that grab, yo. That intense stare. That nervous swallow. Hell yeah.)

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I have been on this site for almost three years. I’ve been in a relationship with Sir for one of those three.

During that entire time, I’ve used a lot of photos of white couples to tell stories about the stuff we do. Tumblr – and the entirety of the porn industry – is really white-washed. And I know how annoying this is coming from a white girl.

But what’s especially annoying is that if we were “the other way around,” I’d have a plethora of photos. Which is a whole other problematic rabbit hole, but the fact is that it’s always felt vaguely wrong or frustrating when one of us posts a picture of a white couple and is implies that it’s “so us.”

And then I stumbled across the photo. It is the first time I have seen a picture on tumblr of an Asian man and a white woman. I’m worried here that like every other word I write is super problematic, but there’s something really awesome and weirdly validating about finally seeing a picture like this. 

Oh, and looking at their dynamic, it is “so us.”

hellyeahmalepornstars:

Such a cute photo