I have been on this site for almost three years. I’ve been in a relationship with Sir for one of those three.
During that entire time, I’ve used a lot of photos of white couples to tell stories about the stuff we do. Tumblr – and the entirety of the porn industry – is really white-washed. And I know how annoying this is coming from a white girl.
But what’s especially annoying is that if we were “the other way around,” I’d have a plethora of photos. Which is a whole other problematic rabbit hole, but the fact is that it’s always felt vaguely wrong or frustrating when one of us posts a picture of a white couple and is implies that it’s “so us.”
And then I stumbled across the photo. It is the first time I have seen a picture on tumblr of an Asian man and a white woman. I’m worried here that like every other word I write is super problematic, but there’s something really awesome and weirdly validating about finally seeing a picture like this.
Oh, and looking at their dynamic, it is “so us.”
Such a cute photo