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haraii:

christmas eve what about christmas adam

happy christmas adam to all men’s rights activists

Please stop pestering us with things like this. This has nothing to do with men fighting for their rights. Eve is short for ‘evening’. Please don’t turn activism into a joke. Thanks.

Someone isn’t having a good christmas adam

Christmas Adam: December 23rd. Comes before Christmas Eve and is generally unsatisfying.

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Yesterday would have been Sir’s and my anniversary. In the spirit of trying to be friends, we decided to meet up for dinner.

I was super anxious leading up to it; I hadn’t seen him since we broke up, although we have been talking. We’re both seeing other people, but I was scared I would cry when I saw him or regret the whole thing instantly.

But seeing him come up the block to meet me last night, I was filled with warmth for him. It’s hard to explain. But I’ll say this: we spent most of the first half of our twenties together, and so in a way we grew up together. There were so many firsts and so many beautiful things that I shared with this man. And so when he came up and hugged me, all of my anxiety faded away and I was able to just enjoy him again.

It’s hard to talk about the “end” of this relationship – though it’s not really ended – on tumblr. He found me here, you all watched this relationship develop. You were there for all the good stuff and the awkward stuff and the brave stuff. I was nervous to share the bad stuff because it always felt like I might be disappointing someone, especially when I used to get asks from people basically saying they envied our relationship.

I’ve said it before here and I’ll repeat it: knowing how it all wound up, I’d do it again. Especially now, after the wonderful dinner we shared as people becoming something that feels like – and hopefully will be – dear friends. And I know it sounds strange, but breaking up may have been one of the best things we could have done for our relationship.

We were very good to each other. I think that’s what made this all right. There were some really hard and bad times. But in the end it’s overwhelmed by gratitude and warmth. I’m glad we did this right. I’m glad I loved him. I’m glad we tried as hard as we did. And I’m glad you’ve all been with us, join us on this really unexpected journey.

I promise, I’ll get back to the sexy stuff soon.

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Craftsmate/Sir and I had “un-anniversary” dinner and drinks tonight.

It’s overwhelmingly satisfying to see him and still have a friendship with him and have no ill will or tension.

We say hi.

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subnancy:

A tie by John Willie that he describes as follows:

This tie keeps her arms and hands bound tightly at her sides, but otherwise she is free to move normally.  It is very secure and one that even Houdini did not like. It is easy to do, but a little difficult to describe.  You drape a long cord round the back of the neck with the two ends falling over the shoulders in front (see fig. 1). It doesn’t go around the throat but is just draped over the neck. Then you bring the ends back under the arm pits (2–F), cross over in the middle of the back near the waist (2–B), around in front again (2–F) and then back between the thighs (2–B) and up to the wrists (3). The only time the rope is crossed is in the middle of the back. You pull it as tight as you can and tie it to each wrist separately as they are held close together in back (3). You then pull the ends around the thighs (4–B, thus pulling the wrists apart until each one is resting just back of the thighs and tie the cord in front (4–F).

The advantage of this “wrap around” tie is that no matter how the body twists or turns it does not get slack anywhere.  It is like a skimpy bra-and-G- string costume in which she can perform all sorts of contortions and her breasts will stay in and not fall out.

If a clove hitch is tied around each wrist the more the captive struggles the tighter it will become. In addition it is quite impossible to move the hands around, one further back and the other further in front.  When this has been done you simply tie a cord as tightly around the waist and arms as you can and that is that (4–B & F).

To make this even tighter and more secure tie a cord to the one at the back of the neck (5) and then pass it around the one that goes around the waist and arms, pulling tight so the cord at the neck is dragged down a bit and the one around the arms up a bit. Then carry on down to the wrists. Now here you pass it around the cord to, say, the left wrist, between the wrist and where it disappears between the legs (5) and then under the other cord which goes to the right wrist. Then pull up to tie it at the cord around the elbows again (6). This should draw the cord at the elbows down a bit nearer to its original position and pull the one at the back of the neck automatically down further It also draws the cords which come from between the legs to the wrists close together and the higher up they are drawn together the tighter they will be around the wrists and the tighter up between the legs.

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I’m turning twenty-five in a week so like THAT’S A THING.

Hi Ivy! :) I’m relatively new to the scene, and I too consider myself a submissive non-monogamous young woman. I’m getting very involved in local bdsm events and such, as well as poly munches, and I’m wondering if I should tell my family these things. (Either the polyamorous piece or the bdsm piece, or both?) I’ve already casually brought up with my dad months ago that I’m curious about polyamory, and I hinted at bdsm stuff with my brother a few weeks ago, but I’m not sure where to go. Thoughts?

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That depends on your family, really. I can’t give you an answer without knowing them! I keep my dating life relatively private from most of my family, but that’s just based on the boundaries I like to maintain with them.

Obviously, coming out in any context can be super risky. It can also be a huge relief. But you should consider what the advantages of your family knowing would be, especially in relation to the risks. I can’t give you a definitive answer, I don’t know your family. But consider that some things are just your own personal business (like what goes on in your bedroom) while some things will have larger implications that require coming out (say, if you wanted to bring two partners to Thanksgiving.)

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The day after Valentine’s Day, Pup and I bought marked-down Valentine’s candy, ordered burritos and stayed in bed all day watching Bob’s Burgers. It was a really good day.