Month: January 2015

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How I should be spending my day off.

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Sir has a pair of Lucky Brand jeans and I used to giggle a bit every time I would unzip his pants to find this line waiting for me. 

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One day, I’m going to get good at multitasking.

One day.

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Also, Pup gave me a task to do this week and it’s the first non-bedroom D/s-type thing we’ve ever ventured into doing and it’s a little humiliating and I don’t know if I can actually bring myself to do it and that’s the best part. 

Ugh, and of course Sir is totally on board with the idea. Whine.

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Back in the fall, I went apple picking with Pup and some of his friends. I had met a few in passing, but I’d never sort of been out with a non-primary partner’s friends as a “date.” I was a little nervous about sort of making a bad impression as the girl their friend was dating who already has a boyfriend, and I was a little scared too of being seen by people I knew. At the time, I still wasn’t out as poly to basically anybody.

We were having a lovely time, thankfully. His friends seemed to like me and I was having fun. While we were waiting for some cider, I took hold of Pup’s hand and noticed the scar on his thumb. “That’s healing up all right,” I said.

“Oh god,” his friend said. “You’re the girl he bled on?”

I blushed and shook my head. “Yeah, I’m the girl he bled on.”

“Woah,” another said. “We all just assumed that was the end of it. How did he even bounce back from that?”

So, yeah. I guess I’ll always be the girl he bled on. 

Ivy how do you deal with break ups? (If you’ve ever had to that is)

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Of course I’ve had relationships break up! This happens to everyone unless you basically marry the first person you’re ever dating, never divorce, and die in each other’s arms.

If the person has broken up with me/cheated on me/wronged me: Hang out with the people I love and care about, rewatch a movie I love, take it easy on myself, eat a burrito, talk about it when I’m ready to talk about it, request a quick subject change when I’m not ready, do my nails, wear the nicest thing I own, wear my damn pajamas. Basically, take care of myself in little ways while still trying my hardest to maintain the flow and routine of my life.

If I have broken up with a person: Remind myself why that was necessary, give them their necessary space and respect, understand if they harbor resentment or ill-will, apologize when necessary.

If it’s mutual: Allow myself some time to heal before making any kind of stab at friendship.

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Nicki is queen. That’s all I have to say.