Of course I’ve had relationships break up! This happens to everyone unless you basically marry the first person you’re ever dating, never divorce, and die in each other’s arms.

If the person has broken up with me/cheated on me/wronged me: Hang out with the people I love and care about, rewatch a movie I love, take it easy on myself, eat a burrito, talk about it when I’m ready to talk about it, request a quick subject change when I’m not ready, do my nails, wear the nicest thing I own, wear my damn pajamas. Basically, take care of myself in little ways while still trying my hardest to maintain the flow and routine of my life.

If I have broken up with a person: Remind myself why that was necessary, give them their necessary space and respect, understand if they harbor resentment or ill-will, apologize when necessary.

If it’s mutual: Allow myself some time to heal before making any kind of stab at friendship.