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The truth will set you free.

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I haven’t been completely honest with you, tumblr. It’s not that I’ve lied. It’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s just that I haven’t told you the whole truth.

The major dip in personal posts is not because I completely went off the radar for months at a time. I was seeing people. I was having fun. I had some crazy experiences. I’ve really seen myself change and evolve and let go. It was honestly inspired.

But, there was someone reading my tumblr who I was previously involved with. Someone who then showed it to a girl who was submitting to him. I felt terribly exposed, so I kind of closed up shop. I considered completely deleting my tumblr. I considered changing the name. I was just panicked and worried that if I were to upset him in some way that this would turn into horrible blackmail. I want to be anonymous, he was unashamed. It wasn’t a good mix.

Also, he was still very attached, while I had moved on completely. It hurt to see him that way. I felt bad. And, with the knowledge that he still looked at my tumblr, no matter how many times I told him not to, I was upset and concerned about breaking him down with the fact that I was now seeing other people. He was, for some reason, and without even asking, under the impression that I wasn’t. 

However, we recently have, for other reasons, closed down most communication. And I’m just full of these stories. And I want to trust you all. I want to trust that this stays between us. And I know that’s silly to say, with hundreds of followers, a bunch of anons, and apparently this girl he was involved with all on tumblr and watching me here. 

I had so much trouble keeping a journal all my life. But, for some reason, tumblr keeps me motivated. I guess it’s because of the love and the positivity. And so I want to try to be honest here. I want to recount what happened in these many months past. I want to tell you the sexy and the funny and the downright awkward. I want to tell you the sad.

I want to say that I would be able to own up to my tumblr if it were used against me, but I’d rather never have to think that would happen. I do not resent my ex for what he has done, though I hope that, if he is reading this message (even after saying he had completely stopped looking at my tumblr), he will be able to look upon this with respect and not contempt. 

You all have been so wonderful, so supportive. And I hope this continues. I’m trusting you here.

<3,

Ivy

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Yep.

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Truth: I can get a little bashful.

And I’m a notorious lip-biter.

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India Reynolds

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Yes. We’re really doing a disservice to young men by not showing this video, or something similar, or just even talking about the stuff in this video, in Health/Life Skills/Family Life education.

There is this horrible, horrible emphasis on masculinity and a terrible trend of type-casting in the media that has bled into the behaviors of men today. It’s incredibly frustrating for women, who have to constantly emphasize that they don’t like the macho, harsh image that is put on, and also seriously dangerous. For men, I can only imagine that incredible duality that they must feel with such a pressure on the idea of a dichotomy of either being macho or being weak. There’s serious, serious strength in what we today call “weakness”. 

I find men who are able to portray their emotions honestly and not put up a front incredibly, incredibly sexy. The kind of sexy the media thinks men should be when they’re macho. And it’s basically a dealbreaker for me if a man can’t cry in front of me, talk out his feelings, and mediate peacefully, even when he is angry. 

While I mention a lot on my blog about spanking, smacking, domination, etc, this is a purely consensual thing and once the scene ends, the behavior ends. And if I’m uncomfortable with the behavior, it gets dismissed without question. BDSM is a safe, sane, and consensual process, not a form of abuse. By the same token, abuse cannot be mistaken for something “sexy” or “fun” or something she “actually wants”. 

Thanks for sharing the video. I’m all pumped and now I want to write my Congressman or something. 

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Okay boys and girls and everything in between. Homework time. This is ‘Tough Guise’ by Jackson Katz. When I think of him the word ‘progressive’ comes to mind.

This documentary was a real eye opener for me. I think it should be mandatory viewing in high school. It’s only 7 minutes long, and I’d love to hear what you thought about it. Click here to tell me.

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