Fuck Baseball, Part Six
Craftsmate and I determined that I was hung up on the rules of “baseball”. That there was a decided order in which things were done and in which people engaged with each other.
“I can’t help it,” I said, “you ran straight across the field to second base, you probably had to knock over the pitcher.”
“Nah,” he replied, “when I was a kid, I was the catcher. Because I didn’t mind balls flying at my face.”
I laughed. I don’t know why I get hung up on standards prescribed by a society of whose counterculture I seem to belong to in more than one way. I don’t know why I would give in to the obligation to kiss someone when I didn’t want to.
Craftsmate is a play partner. Him playing with my nipples is an expression of a play dynamic and not the progression of a romantic relationship which neither of us have any interest in. Because I’ve never had the BDSM without at least the semblance of a traditional relationship frame, I had a little trouble categorizing Craftsmate and determining what was appropriate.
But I think what’s appropriate is what makes us feel good and what is mutually enjoyed and respectful. And that’s a lot of stuff, but it’s not kissing and it’s not sex, coital or otherwise, which I determined in going over my boundaries with myself.
So fuck baseball. Seriously. I don’t even like the game, so why would I follow its stupid rules? If I want the base to base progression, I’ll do it out of willingness, but not obligation.
keepingitinthefamily:
Daddy, when is it baseball season again?
chipwillis:
libraryvixen:
swing batter
source needed
Jonathan Leder for Jacques magazine I believe.
http://jonathanleder.blogspot.com/?zx=3a5b3e3b0021f44