Pride is the sexiest feeling. Outdoing yourself and surprising yourself are such rewarding things during kink. And encouragement and recognition is so, so, so important.
I love Maitresse Madeline. Not only is she ridiculously sexy, but she really brings out the best in her partners. Melina Mason kept crying at the beginning and Maitresse kept stopping to comfort her (per Kink.com shooting rules) before ramping up the intensity again, but as she was flogging her she kept saying things like ‘Look at how strong you are!’ and calling Melina powerful and telling her how turned on she was. And you could tell Melina was absolutely loving it, even calling it the best sex she’d ever had in the closing interview.