Aftercare isn’t about kindness, love, and that sort of goopy shit. It’s not a chore or a to-do item on a checklist that you need to tick off in order to Do The Right Thing. I know that’s how the kink community likes to frame it, and hey, that framing may work for you… awesome. But if it doesn’t, there are other ways to look at it.
For me? Aftercare is a decompression chamber for your humanity. It’s a space where two people who have just done something really strange can spend a few minutes coming to terms with what that strangeness says about them.
the phrase daddy issues makes me so mad like no this isnt some ‘issue’ we have its a system of neglect and emotional incompetence thats excused and encouraged in men and then somehow reflects badly on young girls for being lost and im so mad
The man fails as a father and we laugh at the neglected girl
“This is how we know the world: hit something hard, hit something soft, sit by a glowing window and watch the lighted storm swim by.” – Lisa Olstein, “Leopards Are Flexible Cats.”
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Public service announcement
Go watch “The Mortified Guide” on Netflix because Pup and I are up ENTIRELY TOO LATE laughing and crying and loving it
