Month: February 2018

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That munch yesterday was a big ol’ bust. The people there weren’t super chill, kind of were a little up their own asses. Some girl tried to accuse me of being a confused bottom when I tried to express that I am not super service-oriented as a submissive. Which like, okay, girlie.

So Pup and I booked it when we could to go home, have a Sunday afternoon beer and watch some Grace & Frankie. Because it’s an endless relief to have an amazing companion in this kind of stuff. (And now that we’ve broken the seal on going to munches in our new city, the next few will be easier!)

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Pup and I are headed to our first munch in our new city today. It’s been over six months and we feel about ready to branch out into the kink community here.

I’m so, so happy to be going with him. I had to do this by myself in the last new city I moved to, and it’s amazing to be able to have him by my side for this situation.

But I’m still so flipping nervous.

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Me: Ugh, Ivy, you’ve really hit rock bottom of depravity this time like how did your brain even come up with something that disgusting you should be ashamed of yourself this is just foul

Tumblr: Oh hey so guess what that gross thing has a name

Tumblr: And an entire community

Tumblr: And porn written by people of varying degrees of skill

Tumblr: You’re not so special, kid

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“I am the shape you made me.

Filth teaches filth.”

— Sophocles, Electra (tranlated by Anne Carson)

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Genuine question

Is there a more politically correct term than “gangbang” for a sexual act wherein a group of people all interact with one central person (the “bangee”)? Because I really, really hate certain connotations that the term gangbang has, particularly as far as consent and race go.

My issue with the term “group sex” is that it feels too generic and often describes a sexual encounter in which the participants have more of a degree of intermingling. Conversely, the focus of a “gangbang” is sort of a scenario in which a group (n) consisting of a central person (x) and the other participants (n – x) are sort of separate entities from each other. X does stuff to the members of (n – x), the members of (n – x) do things to x. Every encounter involves x in some regard with very little engagement between members of (n – x).

Does this make ANY sense? Is there a better, specific, less problematic term?

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Like hard candy melting in your pocket.