Got lost in the woods this weekend to get rid of some pre-new-job jitters and spotted this heart in a tree which reminded me of your treat-yo-self blogiversary.
Happy number 5 big girl! š
-Casey xox
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Omg @kinkycasey this is a gorgeous photo. Thank you thank you for sharing.
And they – a vanilla, heterosexual couple – proceed to fuss over me pre-play party like I am about to go to my junior prom.
āYouāre going to look so pretty.ā
āNo, you have to go, youāre going to have so much fun.ā
āBut what are you going to do with your hair?ā
Hey Ivy, I know itās not how everyone would treat themselves, but some new double-pointers and a brisket burger are right up there for me! Obvs being tied up by Daddy and fucked til I canāt figure out where I am, but heās in America and Iām not, so, yeahā¦
I love reading your blog, sharing the highs and lows and relating to the complexities of figuring out who we are! Thank you for being titillating, revealing and honest. Itās a privilege to read along.
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Awesome treating yourself, @slipperygalā! Thanks so much. Major props for doing the long distance thing, hoping you two can get together soon.
Two nights ago, something pretty crappy happened with my family. It was totally out of left-field and never something I had imagined would ever happen. Iām still kind of reeling from it, but Iām doing a lot better that I thought I would be, all things considered.
But when I learned about it, I had a pretty massive panic attack. I have anxiety, and this stuff happens, but Iāve never had one this bad. My whole body was shaking, I wasnāt saying the right words. Given the circumstances, it was a ānaturalā reaction, but it was still incredibly frightening.
I was about to go to bed when I found out and I started texting Sir frantically. He was able to calm me down somewhat, and I was so grateful for him for being so understanding and gentle during the whole thing. Itās one of the reasons I love him so much and why I believe heās such a keeper.
The next morning, I found out from Pup that heād tried to get in contact with him. Pup was, understandably, asleep. When I asked Sir about it, he said that because he wasnāt able to care for me in person, he wanted to send someone over who could.
Even my therapist, who is a bit of a non-monogamy skeptic sometimes, was incredibly impressed like this. It shows that Sir trusts his place in my life to the degree that sending over another man to comfort me wouldnāt feel threatening. It shows that he also trusts Pup and me, as well as respecting the dynamic weāre building. It was just this really amazing, really selfless gesture that demonstrated that Sir totally prioritized my feeling safe and comfortable over the hierarchy of our non-monogamy.Ā
In light of all the crap that went down, thereās my silver lining. I realized that our non-monogamy has matured so much in the last year and that we really, really do trust each other.
Also if you told me five years ago that my poly game would be this strong, I wouldnāt believe you. Hereās to keeping relationships healthy and supportive for another 5 (plus!) years.
Guys! Thank you for all the beautiful submissions and stories of how youāve been treating yourselves. Iāve gotten some really gorgeous ones in the form of just asks and anons (and people who asked to stay anon) as well. One followerās finally getting a massage, caseyvegetables is turning a crappy situation into a reason to have an adventure. A bunch of vibrators got bought today. So, thanks.
And, particularly, thank you to this follower from Norway:
Hi Ivy! I just wanted to share some “treat yourself” news with you. I’ve been mentally ill on and off for five years now, and on friday I went to my first therapy session ever. I’ve always been scared and I’ve felt too unimportant to get help, but yeah, I finally did. And it’s not like it made everything better, but I feel like this is the start of a great journey, and I am proud of myself – for finally treating myself and my mental health seriously. Love your blog! Cheers from Norway. <3
Iām so proud that youāre getting help, thatās the ultimate in ātreatingā yourself! It took a lot of work for me to get myself into therapy and find find a great therapist, too. Hereās to the difficult and necessary work you did today on your mental health. <3
We met each other about two and a half years ago when he found my tumblr and recognized me. He assured me my secret was safe, and when I got up the courage to meet him I tried my hardest to deny the electricity I felt between the two of us. Now, heās my boyfriend, my owner, my dominant, my best friend. Weāre about to enter into some seriously uncertain times as heās leaving the country for an amazing opportunity. But, to celebrate that and as his present to me for our second anniversary, we packed up some naughty stuff and spent a night at a hotel. This is our favorite shot from the next morning, when we had sex facing the window and watched the joggers in the early fog and the cars in the street,Ā overlooking the city where we fell in love.
Flattered we turned up on NN for Valentineās.Ā
I totally may have already posted this photo because I got impatient but whatever guys just go with it I donāt want to take another photo today itās Lazy Sunday okay.
Also, the award for best reblog comment goes to bossassmish:
āJust appreciating a pair of cage underwear that isnāt suffocating the larger bootiesā
So making it onto @nymphoninjas (and that absurd comment aboutĀ āsuffocating the larger bootiesā) remains one of my favorite moments in the past five years of this tumblr.
To me, treating myself often means new lingerieā¦ I love the softness of the lace, the little bows and the way it makes me feel ^_^
Happy blogaversary, Ivy!
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@norapinephrine, what a gorgeous bra! I love treating myself by wearing nice/new lingerie, too. (Or, you know, ending up wearing it when all my everyday underwear is in the laundry :P)
Stinging (mostly, usually) gone so hip hip hooray.
Throwback to that time I did the thing.
Ivy, I hope weāre not too late to submit. First and foremost, happy blogaversary! We think of your blog all the time as a huge source of inspiration (along with others, like the late, great spankaway) and a big reason why we decided to make our own blog.
We stay mildly anonymous, but Iāll introduce myself as T. Iām the one with the penis (because I canāt think of any other appropriate qualifier)
Often times Iāll scroll through our blog thinking about how opening up like we did taught us to be more adventurous. From tying A down with a vibrator strapped to her and leaving the room, to making her wear a butt plug all day throughout work, weāve expanded our sexuality and what it means. Sure, there are things weāre not interested in trying. Everyone has limits. But seeing you open up like you do helped us do the same and we feel better for it.Ā
Keep doing what you do and know that it is appreciated by so many.
T
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Oh my gosh!!! Love this submission from T ofĀ tnastories. What a great story, happy adventuring!
A throwback and a shameless self-promotion. With the encouragement of you all on here, I wrote a little book of erotica which was super scary to do and one of my favorite memories in the last five years of this tumblr. To celebrate the blogaversary, Iāve kicked the price down to $3.99.
Again, I am so so full of gratitude at the fact that you all were like āyeah girl write yo pornā and somehow, three years later, continue to buy and read it (!!!). It legitimately makes my day whenever I get a message that another person has downloaded it.Ā
Okay, shameless self-promotion and shower of gratitude over!