Is it weird that I fantasize about being taken to some sort of sex dungeon by a couple where the guy’s all passionate and cuddly and just makes me melt from romantic love making then the girl comes in and she’s all chains and gags and whips and just a badass dominatrix that totally owns me, then the guy would try to tell her to calm down but she wouldn’t have it and he’d just clam up and help her do her thing because she’s actually the domme in their dynamic too and he’s her toy too? I crave it!

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Listen, if your fantasy involves consenting human adults doing things that are legal and enjoyable, then right on. You’re fine.

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As requested by a very polite anon, here’s my feet in some tights. And my butt.

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artoflovingme:

my insides enlist one thousand swarming insects…

(from a poem I wrote, found here)

So, I came out to my mother today as poly. I totally didn’t anticipate this happening like this/today/ever. But it went so, so well. She was supportive and patient.

At first, she asked some silly and infuriating questions, but eventually we were able to sort of get on the same page about the whole thing. It’s really rewarding to me to see her try to understand this and to take me on my own terms, as the person that I am.

Best part though: She’d met Pup once and I had introduced him as a friend. And when I told her today that he’s actually a partner, she went, “oh thank God. I saw him and the way he looked at you and thought you’d messed up and slept with him.”

So uh, thanks Good Guy Mom for sitting on my “illicit affair” for a few months and not saying anything?

Is herdirtylittleheart not your Daddy anymore? :c

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Let me begin by saying Heart is a very close friend and an absolute confidante. We’ve been there for each other through a lot of stuff (kink/poly-related and otherwise) and playing with her is lots of fun. She also still dotes on me and sent me the cutest little surprise in the mail the other day because she’s the sweetest.

But, it’s hard enough for me to do long distance once over, let alone twice. She was so happy and supportive when Sir started doing Daddy-like stuff, and I’m thrilled about the stuff she does with Kitten. Though, if I get a chance to visit her again soon, I wouldn’t refuse if she offered to spank me again or the like.  

Hi Ivy. I absolutely love your tumblr, and read it daily. Thanks for writing and posting photos so honestly and bravely. It’s not always easy to look at your own life that directly, let alone sharing that with a bunch of strangers. Thank you. A question: any idea what happened to WRM? Her tumblr is down, and I’m just hoping she is ok. I’d miss her posts but I hope it’s just that she doesn’t want to tumbl anymore, not that something happened. Anyway, I thought you might know. Take care.

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Thank you very much. As for WRM (worthlessrapemeat), tumblr deleted her blog for content-related reasons, and she hasn’t made a new one yet. 

Long time fan, first time caller! So I finally got myself a daddy and while he doesn’t share my kinks (diapers, dd/lg, mean shit) he plays with me and has grown to love them. Thing is, it’s been almost a year into our relationship and while I still love the shit out of him/am attracted to him, I’m having trouble getting horny? Like I feel kind of dead down there? Have you ever dealt with this? What do?!?

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Is this a recent development? Is it just with him or can you get horny on your own? Sometimes my libido shuts off because of stress.

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vivalabianka:

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mashable:

‘50 Shades of Grey’ isn’t the first and certainly won’t be the last steamy, stimulating book. [via]

omfg are you really gonna call lolita “erotica”?

people are sickkkk

Lolita has the erotica sense but it’s still good

Lolita is a classic. It’s an amazing novel. 
But no. It is not erotica. It is a story about a paedophile. I’m so done with seeing it portrayed as a ddlg relationship on here. 

Thank you. Lolita does not have the “erotica sense.” It wasn’t written to arouse anybody.

Humbert Humbert is not intended to be a paragon of sexual vigor: he’s older, he’s awkward, he’s bumbling and delusional. He has no teeth, for Christ’s sake. And Dolores Haze is not particularly sexual or desirous: her actions are misconstrued under the “haze” (bad pun) of Humbert’s pedophilia. The sex scenes are never explicit. She usually just gives him a handjob, he threatens her, she cries about it. And then, spoiler alert, she escapes her abuser, ends up with another abuser, because unfortunately that’s usually how this shit works.

Part of me actually fucking worries about people who think this book has an “erotica sense.” And then part of me realizes NOBODY READS A GODDAMN PIECE OF LITERARY FICTION ANYMORE BEYOND GOING TO THE FUCKING GOODREADS PAGE TO FIND THE ARTSY LINES TO PUT ON THEIR TUMBLRS TOTALLY DIVORCED OF CONTEXT.

Ugh I can’t.

Read a fucking real book and appreciate it as a complex piece of fucking literature. I’ve had it. Officially.