So, I signed on to fetlife to keep in touch with kinky people I’d met, with no intention of using it as a dating site. Even with no indication of looking for people and no photos including my face, I ended up getting a whole lot of messages from incredibly presumptuous and rude folks demanding I submit sexually to them or send them nudes.

I am sure there’s nice people on fetlife. But, if that’s what I get for not even actively looking for partners on there, I’m really not interested in using it for dating.