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I was out last night at a party for one of my friends. Among the guests there was her boyfriend, who I had not previously met for longer than a brief encounter as he is a recent graduate. 

We wound up talking and I told him that I thought he and my friend looked sweet together. You know, stuff people say to be nice. So, out of the blue, he asks me in response, “do you have a boyfriend?”

I shrug. “Nope.”

“Why not?” He asked.

I blinked. “I just…don’t.”

“Oh, don’t worry,” he replied, “I’m sure you’ll find somebody soon.”

“I wasn’t under the impression I was worried,” I said.

So, as you guys all know, I don’t currently have a primary. Sometimes, that upsets me a little, especially when I’m exploring the grey area or people I’m with do have primaries and I sort of feel unsure of what to do to sort of match in that situation.

But, for God’s sake, this guy doesn’t know that. So he’s assuming I’m some poor single girl collapsing into the fact that I don’t have a man. And he thought that what he said would be encouraging. As if I am so dependent on other men’s approval of my availability that I would not assume that I was worthy of male attention unless he or someone similar provided reassurance. 

Seriously. Come suck my dick. Sometimes being single sucks, but being told by people like you that I’m worthy of having a significant other makes you suck ten times harder.