Pup keeps a butter knife in our freezer for knifeplay. 

(Tip for those who don’t know: if you freeze a butter knife and blindfold your partner, it feels 100% sharper and more dangerous. Which can be incredible.)

Our roommate – an incredibly open and supportive and fantastic vanilla friend – was cleaning out the freezer the other day when she came about the knife. “How’d this get in here?” She wondered aloud. 

 "Oh, no, leave it there,“ I said. "Don’t worry about it." 

She stared down at the knife for a minute before replacing it and saying, "this is some kind of sex thing, isn’t it?”