Anonymous asked: What is breath play?

Ivy says: Use the context clues. 

Anonymous asked: Hey Ivy, question for you. How long does it usually takes you to trust someone enough to submit to them? It’s been surprising to read your Flint story, because from what you’ve said in the past you usually need some time to build that trust. What do you think has been different this time? Does it help to have other girls around with you? A Nosy Anon.

Ivy says: Honestly, if it’s a one-on-one situation. But, with Flint, the situation is a little different. First of all, I’m not submitting to him so much as playing with him. I submit to my owner, Sir, and he “lends me out” to Flint. The two of them spoke with each other before the first time I played with him and continue to communicate. Second, because Flint has several partners, it kind of functions as a sort of “yelp”-typed situation where I can see “reviews” of him. Because not only are other girls around, but other girls clearly trust him, I feel rather comfortable doing stuff with him. Third, I am still building trust with Flint. What helps is that he confers with Sir and checks in a whole lot about limits and feelings, so I’m starting to really establish it. So, for now, I trust his ability to respect my boundaries, I trust his understanding of my pre-existing relationship, and I trust in the pre-existing relationships he has. 

Anonymous asked: Are you really only allowed to cum once every few months? How do you manage it? I’ve never tried it, but I know subs who struggle with being on denial for a week or two, never mind just accepting it as a permanent way of life!

Ivy says: Yes, I am really only allowed to cum once every few months, unless I do something very good. Right now I’ve earned one orgasm to use whenever I’d like, and I’m saving it. I manage it rather easily, mostly because I’m honestly not super orgasmic. I had trouble orgasming until I was 20 for a variety of reasons. Partially because it takes me a while, and mostly because my pussy is VERY sensitive, so I can’t have a lot of toys directly on my clitoris and if someone has even a little bit of a fingernail to them, I feel it and it hurts like crazy. Even when I masturbated by myself, I got incredibly overstimulated before I could even cum. And, if I did cum, I would get so tender that I definitely couldn’t continue touching myself. When I was cumming whenever I wanted, my orgasms also weren’t incredibly strong. So, now that I’m on denial, I have a much easier time cumming because I’ve been craving it and my orgasms feel so much better. Sometimes it’s difficult when I really want to cum and I still have a little time to wait, but usually it’s pretty great for me.

Anonymous asked: How did you and Sir deal when your relationship became long distance? Was there anything that helped during that period of transition, before or after?

Ivy says: It was hard, but we’re coming up on a year now and we are so proud of how we are keeping it together. The number one thing that helped was Couple. It’s an iPhone app and he and I would use it to text, send pictures, etc. It’s super cheesy, but it’s super cute and fun to use.

Anonymous asked: Has your sex drive ever been a problem with one of your partners? My boyfriend thinks I’m too horny and can’t keep up with me.

Ivy says: Honestly, this is probably not the answer you’re expecting. I don’t have a massive sex drive. I participate and enjoy kink without sex. And while I’m probably maybe a little hornier than the average vanilla person, I’m probably a little less than the average cumblr user? Sometimes I go a week or more without masturbating because I’m just not in the mood. But, in that regard, yeah. Sir is often horny in the morning and I’m usually just not. I’d rather have a big breakfast and stuff. (However, I am the biggest fan EVER of afternoon delight.)