Hi Ivy, just wanted to say it’s really good to see/read important arguments from you and others who know stuff about the intersection of rape culture and consensual non-consent express things that some of us sorta ‘know’ but sometimes have trouble believing for ourselves (i.e. oh yeah intelligent people are also at peace with this problematic thing and think about it and I’m not just a totally messed up person). Too bad about Lisa (though English doesn’t seem to be her first language).