Aghhh this is a hard question. 

Define legitimately. I was tying myself up and looking at stuff I shouldn’t have been since I was a youngin. 

With partners? I was 18. There’s a post about it lying around somewhere. He was one of my good friends in high school. He tied me up a bunch of times. It didn’t end well, but it taught me to be brave and to ask for what I want.

I’m still not good at that second one, but I’m getting better.