Desperate here. My partner wants me to talk dirty to him every time we have sex, but I get stage fright and have no idea what to say (and end up feeling dorky). We’ve kind of got a Dom/sub thing going and he usually does the talking (telling me what to do, calling me dirty names, etc.) and I stay quiet because I’m trying to be a good girl and take it all in. But I really want to make him happy. What do I say as a sub in the heat of the moment? Please please help me.

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I’m the same way. I like being able to take it all in and I get crazy stage fright about talking dirty. I’m worried I’ll sound silly and whatnot.

I’d say the time I feel most comfortable is when I’m being genuine. This feels good. I like this. I like when you this. It’s so hot when you this. This is so hot. That kind of stuff.

Be sincere. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. You don’t have to be a magical sex god/goddess. Your partner wants to be with *you* so be yourself. You don’t have to wax poetic, just be honest. Honesty is sexy, vulnerability is sexy, trust is sexy.

I hope this helped!

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