Ugh, nail on the head.
I love being choked in a sexual way. But then when I really think about what’s going on I’m stuck thinking to myself, “I probably shouldn’t be doing this.” Because facts stand that someone could really screw up. And I always go back to the actual violence of the gesture and what it is normally used for, like when I mull over some other fetishes like (consensual, in my case) non-consent. There’s a moment where you stop and think that for a lot of people, this isn’t sexy. In another context, this would be horribly wrong.
But I still can’t deny how it makes me feel.
i know there’s huge ethical/legal/moral controversy about choking as a sexual practice. i understand the risks. sometimes i even freak out about them in a panicky, ‘i’m not gonna do that anymore’ kinda way. but when we’re fucking, there is no more controversy. there’s only our bodies. our trust. our hands. our throats. and in that context, the risk is worth the reward.