Thank you for the birthday wish!

As for submission, I’d say it’s a lot of things. I like being tied up. I like being hit and spanked. I like waxplay, knifeplay, etc. So, I very much enjoy the physical pain and restriction aspects.

But, I’m also very big on the risk and trust involved. I don’t take the notion of collars lightly, I find the whole thing to sometimes get a little serious. I like the headspaces, the way you can get totally consumed by things, I like some of the grittier things to the point that I get a little scared sometimes (gloryholes, dacryphilia, dehumanization). 

So, I guess it’s just some inherent masochism interacting with the deeper, cerebral, emotional aspects of submission.

I hope this answers your question!

<3, Ivy