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If one of you is dominant… whether in the heat of a moment, or in the bedroom, or all the time… that doesn’t mean a specific set of rules handed down from on high. I think that’s one of the beautiful and annoying things about dominance and submission: Once you realize that the BDSM porn dynamic only works in BDSM porn and there’s not much of an orthodox way of doing things (in my area, anyway), all of the rules are up for negotiation. You can be a sassy, bratty sub, a submissive top, a dominant bottom, or be a switch fluctuating amongst all of it. I met a guy who liked being submissive as a guy but also liked getting all dolled up and found that his female mode was more domme than sub. I know a woman who enthusiastically likes to be teased but she just isn’t into any dom/sub stuff.
So, do you want try flogging but can’t imagine kneeling or wearing a leash? Fine! Do you want to be treated roughly but you’re not into saying “Yes, Sir” nor cooking breakfast? Fine! Want to rub your pussy without permission and ask “What are you gonna do about it?” It’s not for everyone but sure sounds fun to me.
From a guest post by Cannon:
This is what reality looks like. “Normal” doesn’t apply to the decisions you and your partners make. All points on this chart are valued the same. Suddenly, the couple that enjoys light scratching during sex is on the same level as the couple that likes to wear full body latex outfits when they’re doing dishes. And both are on the same level as the couple that made the conscious, informed decision to abstain from sex. The only thing that matters is what makes you and your partner feel happy and healthy. Missionary sex is good if you negotiate it. Sex with the same gender is good if you negotiate it. Sex with your electric toothbrush is good if you make sure it’s nice and charged.
Accept this, and you take the first step on your path to sexual freedom. And fighting gingivitis.
