subgirlygirl:

When a man tells me he doesn’t want 24/7 D/s, that it’s impossible to be ‘on’ all the time, unrealistic to ‘be’ dominant or submissive all the time, I always do a little mental happy dance. Because it’s one more person who didn’t waste my time, one more person who doesn’t understand that dominance and submission, in this regard, are not acts – they are characteristics, inherent traits, and, in practice, a way of relating to another person.

There are plenty of people who enjoy the sexual and power-play aspects of BDSM, who enjoy it only from time to time or in certain contexts or situations. But the one I’m interested in can’t turn it off because ‘it,’ quite simply, is him.