evenmoredegradedsluts:

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daddys-submissiveprincess:

a-male-gaze:

I was talking with itw4skaty about how cats are more affectionate when they want food and whether the same principle would apply to hungry subs.

Then I thought about how nice it would be to feed a desperately hungry girl by hand. I imagine us sitting at the dining table with her in my lap, her hands tied tightly behind her back, helpless in my arms. She’s been on a very restricted diet for days, not so bad that her stomach has shut down but bad enough to leave her famished and desperate for food.

It would be so cute. On the table would be all kinds of bite sized food: sushi, chopped up vegetables, bits of cookies and cake, a sandwich cut into pieces.

I’d feed her by hand, bite by bite, but there are so many little games you can play. First of all she has to behave. Don’t be too eager. Sit up straight, sit pretty, don’t lean toward the food. Don’t open your mouth too soon, wait for the food to come to you then eat it. No no no no, that’s too early. Try again. No no still too early. Oh well I’ll just eat this bite myself then.

Here’s another bite, let’s try again. Bring it to your lips… no, you have to open them in time. You didn’t open your mouth so I’ll just rub this on your face. Okay, next bite.

Then there’s the forced babying.

This bite is an airplane coming in for landing, wheeeeeurmmm… open up, that’s a good baby. The next bite is a train going chk-chk-chk into the station. No, that’s too soon, the train isn’t at the station yet. Let’s try again.

My, you’re making a mess. You’re so messy, you’ll have to wear a bib. Oh it says “FEED ME” that’s so cute.

Then there are the difficult foods.

Here’s a carrot, better bite pieces off fast because it’s going all the way in right now.

Oh did I put too much cayenne on that bite, I’m so sorry. Here, have some water to wash it down, big gulp, okay… oh, oops, that was the vodka.

Then, this is a bit more complicated, imagine lettuce cut into long thin strips. I can hold a bunch of strips by one end, hold them up so you can get the other end in your mouth.

Good, now swallow. Yes, swallow while I’m still holding the other end. Good, good.

Now I’ll just… slowly… pull them back out…

Good, now swallow again…

I don’t know how I feel about this.
This seems pretty dark to me but it’s written in a light humorous way. It’s like torture but not really. I guess that’s what kink is all about?

(theory)

“Like torture but not really” is a fair description of some kink activity, but I don’t think it’s what kink is all about. The heart of kink is that it satisfies unusual desires and needs. Some kink is just for arousal, but when you get to extreme forms it should satisfy something deep in your mind. Otherwise it’s, well, unsatisfying.

The girls that were reblogging this post excitedly had an instant reaction like “Yes! Someone do this to me!”. (Possibly also “… except for that part”. It’s okay to be choosy, and some kinks are very specific.)

If you didn’t have a reaction like that then you don’t have to feel like you ought to. It just means this scenario is not for you. If you still want to try it, that’s fine too. It’s also possible to be 100% turned on by a kink and 100% scared at the same time. Take it slow.

The light tone in this piece is deliberate. It’s part of the kink I was going for. A lot of the girls in my audience are really into being denied, and not just in terms of orgasms. Their kink is to be told and shown that what they want doesn’t matter. That what they need doesn’t matter. That’s what’s being set up in this post. Here’s a girl who’s desperately hungry, and her dom is just entertained. Amused. He’s having fun. He thinks her desperation is funny.

“Funny” is just about the ultimate in minimization and denial. I use it sparingly. Don’t underestimate it. Having your needs laughed at hits hard.

There’s another contrast going on here. He plays around with her distress, seems not to care, but he also has her in his lap. He has his arm around her. She’s being tortured, she’s desperate and probably not thinking straight, but there’s an unspoken message: “You are safe. I have you. Everything is under control.”

That combination can be mind-bending. The underlying trust, the combined feeling of terror and safety, is what really makes this kind of scene work.

A third contrast: with all these little games he’s showing that her need to eat doesn’t matter, that even her need to breathe doesn’t matter. He’s demonstrating her helplessness. But he’s also demonstrating her importance. He’s carefully selected the food and cut it up into the right size pieces. He’s thought about how long to starve her. The whole scene has been planned with her in mind. It’s all done to get certain reactions for her, to watch how she deals with things. This scene is important to him. Her role in it is important to him. She doesn’t matter, but he pays attention and he cares.

These contrasts create the tension that makes it so hot for the people it’s hot for.

I hope I didn’t ruin this post for anyone by explaining how it was made 🙂 I also hope it’s a bit clearer for anyone who didn’t know what to make of it.

This sounds wonderful, @daddyslittlekitten99

This explanation of the denial kink and kink in general is mind blowingly well done and puts into words what I’ve never been able to and oh, my god, I’m squirmy and bothered now