claidilady:

i am really tired of the implication that people should simply forgive shitty men, especially shitty dads or shitty husbands/boyfriends or shitty brothers. i’m so bored how often this happens in media, how often it’s advised, how many times someone works towards ~repairing~ things, and how often they have to forgive a million flaws and it’s all good and healthy and therapeutic or whatever. i hate it. i hate when a “resolution” is forced. I hate it when people expect forgiveness or putting up with someone else’s selfishness is seen as extra good somehow. i loathe the concept of “daddy issues”. i hate that bearing the weight of men’s problems and pains are shoved onto women. i want to scream every time people talk about forgiveness and how hard it is for [those] men with their [whatever flaws they have] and what great men they really are and honestly fuck that, fuck them, fuck being forgiving fuck accepting or healing or whatever – for real life, for storylines, for character development, whatever. 

speaking from experience i find it SO INCREDIBLY DISORIENTING when a female character “finds it in her heart” to forgive her dad/husband/boyfriend/brother for [terrible thing]. it’s so unrealistic to see this not really presented as an OPTION but an inevitability, the ONLY path in media. 

it’s so so tiresome to be told by everyone and everything that when men fuck up and hurt others, we [women] should work to forgive them, otherwise *we’re* the broken ones.