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madamethursday:

tanacetum-vulgare:

darkarfs:

I feel like there are a million people who need to understand this.

wow this breakdown is actually super helpful to think about

[Image. A piece of paper with two columns.

The first column is titled: Brutal Honesty. Underneath is the text:

Makes only the truth-teller feel good

Assumes stupidity of the recipient

Isn’t necessarily vital for the recipient to know

Is usually expressed spontaneously

Is said out of irritation with the other person. 

The second column is titled: Loving Honesty. Underneath is the text:

Is difficult for both speaker and recipient

Understands that the recipient is intelligent and can make the best decisions about his/her life

Is vital that the recipient know

Is usually expressed after a great deal of thought

Is offered out of concern for the other’s well-being.”]

Just A Phase

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spiritsflame:

I hear “it’s just a phase” a lot. I’m panromantic asexual, and almost everyone I meet feels the need to weigh in on my romantic and sexual orientation, ready to tell me all the ways in which I am not valid.

My number one answer, every time, is “so what.”

SO. FUCKING. WHAT.

All I see is people rushing to assure people that it’s not just a phase, but even if it was, that doesn’t make it any less valid. People are fluid. Orientations are fluid. When I was 15, I preferred dating boys to dating girls. Now, at 23, I prefer to date girls. When I’m 35, I may find myself, however improbably, actually wanting to have sex.

None of that makes what I am going through right now- who I am right now- any less valid.

Do you know what else is a phase? Childhood. I don’t hear anyone telling their eight year old that they aren’t actually eight because by this time next year, they will be nine. That would be ridiculous.

In five years, they’ll be about to start high school. That doesn’t mean I’ll be making that child read Catcher in the Rye and doing calculus. 

When I was 8, I was going to going to be the first female president. At 10, I ate nothing but pasta. When I was 12, I thought Naruto was the coolest thing ever. These were all phases, all ones that I grew out of, and no one ever told me that, because those things wouldn’t be true in another six months, they weren’t real.

 The present is what matters. What you feel now is what matters. Who knows what you’ll feel tomorrow. It’s no one’s fucking business.

Go through your phases. Feel free to change. You grow. You learn. You adapt.

And nothing that you feel is invalid.

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nickjonasstillhasdiabetes:

tonkotsu-ramen:

marixicana:

POC not wanting to date white people because of a history of colonization and systematic powers of oppression, fear of or weariness over casual and blatant racism, and/or the lack of a shared culture is NOT that same as white people not wanting to date POC because of caricatures that they created, stereotypes that they mock and replicate, and their own racism–whether they think they’re racist or not.

In short: POC are not and cannot be racist for not wanting to date white people. Whereas white people are just plain racist.

How about we just date people were attracted to?

White people don’t have to date POC if they’re not attracted to them. POC don’t have to date white people if they’re not attracted to them.

How about you unfollow me rn immediately or not add your dumb ass no one asked you commentary to posts that aren’t for you

Do you know of any reliable sources reporting/updating on the situation in baltimore I can check out?

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justice4mikebrown:

revolutionarykoolaid:

Decent newsfeed (take everything with a grain of salt though; some stories reported don’t match what those on the ground are saying)

LIVESTREAM 1 (patchy, but still going)

LIVESTREAM from Vice News (Tim was legit one of the best livestreamers during the first few weeks of the ferguson uprising)

Blavity’s 10 Twitter users on the ground in Baltimore

iwriteaboutfeminism​‘s BLM twitter list (solid!)

And of course, following the tags on twitter (baltimore, baltimore riots, etc)

#staywoke

Ferguson protesters Deray and Netta are in Baltimore too!

Remember guys,

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scaredykittens:

camdamage:

sulfurandvans:

When choking your lady out, squeeze the sides. Not the air way. The pleasure comes from the lack of blood. Not the lack of oxygen. Plus if you choke the airway too hard you could break it so squeeze the sides, not the front. And don’t do it all at once either. Start soft and then squeeze gradually harder.

Important fact kids. Don’t forget it. And don’t hold on too long.

IMPORTANT PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT

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lightspeedsound:

gradientlair:

theboozehound:

Mz 007 Will Give You Life With Self-Love Anthem “Important”

The moment I wake up, before I put on my make-up, I’m blasting Mz 007′s “Important.” The St. Louis rapper and certified bad bitch dropped the anthemic track last month, an ode to just how fly she is. It’s just the song you need to greet the day and get ready to start snatching wigs like it’s your true calling.

I love this song and what it symbolizes so much.❤  

I really fucking love this track and this video

TELL ME WHY DOES THIS GO SO HARD THO.

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eurotrottest:

I remember freshman year I used to fucked with this dark skinned nigga. He wasn’t too tall (bout 6’0) and he had short dreads but he was hella insecure bout himself (and his stroke game was superb BUT ANYWAY, BITCH)

I saw how much he didn’t like himself physically. He was shy and didn’t really like his appearance. Always talkin bout his gut and how he’s not as tall as he wants to be. Talked about his size and how he wish he had a stronger physique.

Every time I was with him and we talked I would kinna interrupt him and say “You know you’re so damn beautiful right?” And he would just stop and start awkwardly smile and then try to continue talking but I’d go on “I’m serious you’re beautiful. I can’t stop looking at you your skin is everything.”

I’d tell him when I saw him he’s beautiful. When we fucked that he’s beautiful. When we talked that he’s beautiful. I wanted to tell him until he believed it.

We fell off afterwards but I do hope he carried some of that with him to his next endeavor. Some of my encouragement to feel beautiful.

I tell guys they’re beautiful so they can hopefully see that they are. And I don’t really fuck with the niggas that EVERY girl would find beautiful cause honestly my definition of beauty in a man is different than everyone else’s. I find beauty in every man I associate myself with. Prolly just me.

This is everything. Yes, please tell these men how beautiful they are. Shit, tell everyone.