There are moments that no one else understands. These special moments are for you. They represent who you really are and what you truly enjoy. It isn’t for anyone else but you and the Man you are sharing the moment with. It is a time when you are happy and root yourself in your submission. It is who you are.
Amen
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Submissive Bill of Rights
You have the right to be treated with respect.
Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word “submissive” describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being.
You have the right to respect yourself as well. You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness.
You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.
You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else’s. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later. It is your responsibility to be open about those feelings with your Dominant.
You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn’t feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don’t like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable. You should not expect a Dominant to be a mind reader, until you tell them they do not know.
You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it’s your duty to speak up. Tell your Dominant what you are feeling and have a discussion about it. Pushing limits is hard and your Dominant should have your best interests at heart.
You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn’t, then something is wrong.
You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn’t include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as through they “belonged” for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It’s in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of “belonging” at last.
You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn’t fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don’t settle for less.
You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it’s up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help.
You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it’s a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart.
Author unknown; found this on many different sites dating as far back as 2004 (via girlsrule-subsdrool)
The Edge of Coming
StandardWe talked ourselves to the edge of coming before we left the bar.
Fancy cocktail bars still feel like dress up to me, and I suppose that’s part of the appeal. It’s not my natural habitat, so I hide in the shadows and play pretend as I sip my drink. With her it’s the other way around, and the bar opens its red velvet tongue to welcome her in.
It all vanished as we slipped into a corner, and when she whispered in my ear I couldn’t hear anything else. It was just her breath and her hand on my leg; her words went straight to my cock.
“Make me do everything,” she purred into my ear.
With her, everything meant quite a bit, and I didn’t have to ask where to start. She didn’t want to think, and she didn’t want to question anything. She wanted me to force her to kiss me when we walked in the door and tell her just how to stand as I watched her. She needed me to tell her what to remove and what to leave on, and she needed me to scrub doubt from my mind.
“Should I make you kneel?” I asked her, and she wondered for a second if I meant right then. She nodded her head, and I kept going.
“Should I make you ask and beg for things you don’t want? Should I make you blush with questions you’re too scared to answer?”
She simply nodded again and her voice was lost. I held her hand more tightly than I needed to, and I could feel her body tense as my arm touched her breast when I reached for my drink. She wanted me to say more, but I was quiet as I sipped from my glass. Her imagination could be worse than mine; the longer I let her wait, the more she worried. By the time I finished and took her hand to leave, her legs were weak and I was ready to burst.
“I’m not going to fuck you for a very long time,” I whispered as she put on her coat. She trembled but stayed silent. “When I do let you come, I promise it will be for a reason. It will be for a reason that you have worked very hard to find.”
I caught her when she slipped on the step, and even in the cab she was silent.
*dies a little bit inside*
One of the most entertaining rules I ever created was that in certain rooms of the house she was a slave, and only a slave.
To enter the basement she would have to strip and crawl every time. Until she reached the upper landing of the stairs she would remain on hands and knees, nude.
It didn’t matter the time of year, temperature, or what was going on, the basement was a slave zone.
No one ever understood why she blushed so when I sent her to the basement to fetch something while We had guests.
She’ll look up with a blank face when that door opens.
If he’s smiling, she’ll respond with glee and adoring playfulness knowing that he’ll respond in kind.
If he’s scowling or cold, she’ll follow silently and rest her head on his leg when he finally sits. He needs his time to de-stress, and by showing submission in a simple way shows him what is available by the simple comfort of being close.
She responds to him as he needs, like a well trained and sympathetic plaything.
Every 5 minutes there is an alert.
When she hears the alert, she changes position.
There are over a dozen positions she has memorized.
He has been training her for months for this,
and she will not let him down despite the growing terror in her stomach.
Vendor and others will be filling these halls soon,
and in another hour, the doors will open to the public.
It was a year ago, when she had first seen some of the girls at a kink expo,
she had confessed to being envious of all the attention they received.
Well, now it was her turn to be on display, to receive that attention.
she was shaking, terrified, and so very wet….
