Friendly reminder to check you’re not holding tension in your body. Let your shoulders drop, unclench your hands and jaw. Take a deep breath. Much better.
reminder
Did you know that if you’re not educated on a particular subject you don’t have to do the following things:
1. Don’t have to discuss it.
2. You really can’t and should probably not try to analyze it. See Bloom’s Taxonomy.
3. “All lives matter” is not how you have to admit that you’re uneducated beyond a high school program special about MLK jr.Things You Should Consider Doing:
1. Educate yourself of non-mainstream scholarship that is scholarly. (YouTube and Hidden Colors may not credible)
2. Ask questions, listen for understanding, research, discuss. Repeat.
3. Or just be quiet. The silence of ignorant people is wisdom and golden.
The silence of ignorant people is wisdom and golden.
you deserve the love you keep trying to give everyone else
Something very important to remember the next time you’re feeling a little hesitant about blocking someone who’s harassing you online. Your mental well being always comes first.
THIS THIS THIS ALL FUCKING DAY LONG
you have to treat it just like real life. you would not willingly deal with abuse regularly in real life. you don’t have to online. you have more control on here than you elsewhere. block and stay ok.
Life gets better when you stop looking for approval from others
You deserve a conscious lover. Someone who will not only know your favorite color or flower, but when to offer words in your rage, or the strongest embrace when no words will do.
You deserve a conscious lover. Someone who will not only work with you but for you. Work for your happiness when you’ve forgotten how to create it.. work for your smile when your lips won’t curve.
You, my dear, deserve a conscious lover that couldn’t imagine being anything else.
If I were raped I know for certain that my lifestyle choices and my cheeky “slut pride” posts would be used against me. My ass on the internet would be seen as evidence that I might have said yes. My “no” would matter less because I write about all of the sex I love to have. There would be members of my own family who would say “Well what did you expect?” People who know me and love me would secretly question the validity of my claims, they would wonder what my motive was or assume the story had two sides. There would be folks who follow my blog who would see it as a cautionary tale, they would reassure themselves that they are safe because they do not follow my footsteps. “That’s what you get” would be uttered, either out loud or under breath.
My rapist would say he didn’t do it. People would believe him.When I walk alone at night and someone is following me too closely, or when I flirt with a stranger at a bar with handsome blue eyes and a nice smile, I worry like most girls do that the worst thing might happen. But alongside that worry is another; if it happened I would be blamed.
No matter what your relationship is with sex, no matter how much you have, or what kind, or with whom, you are entitled to say no at any time. Your body is yours. Your “no” is valid.