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glitterpet:

treat yourself like you’re a gem fusion

find the parts of yourself that you love and fucking date them

wake up in the morning and think “i am a beautiful experience”

treat yourself like there’s a person inside you that you want to protect and cradle. 

treat yourself like your love makes you super fucking powerful and amazing

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juliennemoore:

we’ve all had problematic opinions at some point of our lives. do u still think the same as u did 3 years ago?? no, right?? people’s views of things can change

Things to Keep Reminding Myself as Someone with Low Self Esteem, High Anxiety, & the Urge to Please Others

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glittertomb:

No one is entitled to your physical or emotional affection.

Denying affection does not make you a mean or bad person.

It’s not considered hurting others when you are protecting yourself and your happiness.

Those who threaten your joy or comfort do not deserve your kindness or attention.

You should never do anything that makes you feel unhappy to make others happy.

You deserve to feel safe and happy.

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marfmellow:

“There is a perception that speaking up for boundaries is somehow introducing conflict into a situation, or at very least, escalating it in an unkind way, like, everything was fine until you spoke up for your needs and now you made it weird. But not speaking up is not making the situation better, it’s just giving the other person more license to operate and communicating that you are okay with the behavior. There is no prize for being the world’s most stoic and accommodating person. A friendship that cannot survive a the momentary discomfort of you standing up for your needs is not actually a friendship worth holding onto. Nobody loves being told that they are screwing up, obviously, but if you don’t have the ability to ever take any negative feedback along the lines of “Hey, could you not do that one thing anymore, thanks?” from a friend, YOU are the problem. When told that they are stepping on someone’s foot, good adult people will apologize and get off the foot and not perpetuate a FEELINGSDUMP about their need to really stand on feet sometimes. Communicating “Hey, that’s where my boundary is, thanks” IS KINDNESS. It is giving the other person the tools they need to be in a good relationship with you.”— Jennifer Peepas

This is so relevant to my day and where I’m at, and I needed to see it right the fuck now.

Sometimes my dash is magic.

NOTHING MAKES ME ANGRIER THAN SOCIALIZED MALE DOMINANCE IN CONVERSATIONS SO LADIES PLEASE LEARN THESE THREE PHRASES AND NEVER BE AFRAID TO USE THEM

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clones-and-thrones:

carazelaya:

carazelaya:

  • “Stop interrupting me.”
  • “I just said that.”
  • “DID THE MIDDLE OF MY SENTENCE INTERRUPT THE BEGINNING OF YOURS?”

ALSO WHEN YOU SEE FEMALES IN YOUR LIFE BEING DISMISSED IN CONVERSATION:

  • [Name] was speaking, how about we let her finish?
  • [Name] just said that.
  • [Name] was in the middle of saying something, can you please let her finish?

And never say “excuse me” when someone interrupts you. Say “excuse YOU.”

The second comment, aimed at allies, is so fucking important. When women stick up for themselves, they are perceived as sensitive or bitchy (see: patriarchal oppression). But when allies stick up for us, it is more likely to be perceived as it’s intended: as a social correction.

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jakigriot:

queenconsuelabananahammock:

Me loving Laverne Cox and thinking she’s beautiful or wanting to be an influential speaker like her one day does not magically cure me of my transmisogyny. Wishing that Amiyah Scott would be my wife/personal stylist does not magically cure me of my transmisogyny. Screeching like the fangirl that I am when Janet Mock oh so casually spills tea on Twitter does not cure me of transmisogyny. And that goes for every other cis person out there too. Let’s not act like captioning a pic of Laverne with “YAAAAAAAAAAAAAS” means that we will never again have to be self-reflective and examine the ways in which we may contribute to large scale transmisogyny. :/

Personal reminder.

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vaderwins:

babybutta:

black-quadrant:

don’t mistreat people who are sincerely kind

don’t use them for their generosity

and for fuck’s sake don’t take them for granted expecting them to always be there because they’re nice

good-natured people can be worn down so much that even they can become jaded

treat these people right

Or get these gentle hands sir.

True.

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noivern:

self care is valid and good, but at some point you gotta step back and check that you’re actually truly caring for yourself, which sometimes means bullying yourself into getting up and getting air and light, and eating healthy, and doing the things you dont really want to do but you know are good for you. sometimes taking naps and letting yourself off are the best options to be good to yourself, but sometimes theyre not, and you should be careful about it.