just some thoughts – Switchette

Of course, not all women of color are sexualized in the same way. For example, while black women are considered lascivious, always consenting and out of control, Latina women are considered exotic or overly sensual and Asian women are considered childish and prude. These particular stereotypes are reinforced through popular culture and pornography (just Google respectively “Asian women,” “black women,” or “Latina women” and then “women” and see what comes up). The common thread here is that nonwhite women’s sexuality is seen as outside the norm of white heterosexuality. It’s therefore something to be uniquely desired, manipulated, exploited, or controlled. Within this rather toxic climate, being a woman of color who’s in touch with her sexuality is an act of resistance. Pushing past the negative media depictions and still finding a healthy, healing, erotic, and functional sexuality is no small feat.

Samhita Mukhopadhyay

theruleset:

If you think of BDSM as a scale of 1-10 (which is bad you shouldn’t), most blogs post stuff in the 3-6 range.

The problem with also liking the 7-9 range is that the people posting good stuff like that also post 10s, and you just have to quietly suck it up through the gore and puke and other cringe ordeals.

Don’t send them anons complaining about it, that’s gauche.

I’ve been thinking about the first part of this post all morning. As theruleset mentions, BDSM as a spectrum isn’t accurate or helpful, really. But it is interesting. Particularly since that spectrum would be different for each person.

What’s at my 3? What’s on your 6? Is bruising a 2 or a 5 or something else entirely for you? Do we just know it when we see it.

I feel like I’ve been fruitlessly tumbling for my 7-9 all morning. Urgh.