i’ve just dated men where i felt like i was on an audition. that i had to audition for a place in their heart. i had to show that i was perfect, and that i was perfect for them, and that i could be the perfect girlfriend. it was a lot of work. feeling like i had to tip toe and question which pieces of me to show or hide so that i didn’t come off the wrong way. didn’t want to be too strong or too weak. too smart or too dumb. too outgoing or too shy
it was exhausting. and now that i see where i am, i know that it’s unnecessary
because it’s either i like you and you like me and we fit, or there’s no need to waste each other’s time.
Thissssssssssss.
dating
Date people who like and respect you.
Date people who consistently demonstrate interest in and respect for your thoughts, feelings, opinions, and priorities.
Best advice my 19 year old roommate gave me
“Just give him three days. Wait three days, no texts, no calls, no nothing. Then see if he comes back”
“What if I can’t wait three days tho??”
“You see the thing is, you keep running back to him and he gets off on it. He knows he’s gonna have you coming back to him. Why not give him three days and make him realize, oh shit it’s serious, I’m really losing her!”
“What if he doesn’t even come back?”
“Then why would you wanna be with someone that doesn’t want you? Why would you wanna be with someone like that?”