If you think of BDSM as a scale of 1-10 (which is bad you shouldn’t), most blogs post stuff in the 3-6 range.
The problem with also liking the 7-9 range is that the people posting good stuff like that also post 10s, and you just have to quietly suck it up through the gore and puke and other cringe ordeals.
Don’t send them anons complaining about it, that’s gauche.
I’ve been thinking about the first part of this post all morning. As theruleset mentions, BDSM as a spectrum isn’t accurate or helpful, really. But it is interesting. Particularly since that spectrum would be different for each person.
What’s at my 3? What’s on your 6? Is bruising a 2 or a 5 or something else entirely for you? Do we just know it when we see it.
I feel like I’ve been fruitlessly tumbling for my 7-9 all morning. Urgh.