You have to remind men that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, love, time, or consideration just because they like you or because he’s a “nice guy”.
There are a lot of white women relogging this.
You have to remind white people that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, free teaching, love, time, or consideration just because they like you/your culture or because they’re an “ally”.
Reblog this too.
I’m reblogging this with a small addition after reading through way too many of the previous comments, some of which were quite aggressive or vitriolic, and some that were genuinely confused and could have needed a kind pointer.
Fellow white people: the second and third part of this post are an addition to the first in that the core idea is the same. If you agree with the first sentiment, -that a woman does not owe a man anything for being “a nice guy”, then a black woman does not owe a white woman anything for being “an ally”. It is meant to have you look at yourself in comparison to other groups, the same way you look at other groups in comparison to yourself. Basically, check your privilege now that you have a chance to see the same aspects of different situations.
I do recommend that you don’t go and read through other comments though, it was quite demotivating.
Mind if I hop on this to say cis ppl arent entitled to trans ppl’s love, trust, or to know about their body in addition to the previous points
The white male style of debate is to antagonize you until you snap. Then they win by default, because they make up their own rules in which being upset automatically invalidates your argument. The key is also to argue about things that they have no stake and experience in, so they dont snap first. Of course in the event that they do snap first, its of course passion, not anger…
White people are like little kids who make up new rules and obnoxious powers to keep themselves from losing….
At the end of it all, they are happy that you are so civil and can debate things rationally and clearly without getting upset. Everyone shakes hands and thanks everyone for being able to discuss “conflicting” viewpoints. Because after all everyone needs to hear the opposing side to truly be sophisticated. Even if you’ve heard that side all your life and it completely devalues you as a human being.
What i hear is that the mark of civilization to white people is being dehumanized and taking it like a champ.
They also have little to no concept of power dynamics in these ‘sophisticated" discussions.
