basically:
- it is not a virtue to not set boundaries
- ignoring your own wants and needs is not a healthy way to show love
- people worth loving will respect your boundaries
- people worth loving will not want you to set aside your own wants and needs to make them more comfortable
- ‘having no boundaries at all’ describes a person who is very hurt, not a person who is very virtuous
- suffering for others’ comfort is not how you be a good person, it is just how you become very hurt
- sometimes you need to make others uncomfortable in order to get your needs met
- your needs are more important than others’ comfort
- your comfort is equally important to others’ comfort
- making other people uncomfortable is not, in itself, ethically wrong or morally dubious
