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If you ever prioritize your sex drive over a sub’s feelings of safety, you are shit and should not be doing kink things.
If you ever try to push someone’s boundaries in trance just to see what you can get away with (without it being something you’ve negotiated first because obviously some people are into that) you are shit and should not be doing hypnosis things.
If you can’t understand why someone (especially a woman and especially a subby woman involved in kink) might need a bit more time or conversation or whatever before deciding to trust you, and if you ever make the argument that their desire for [insert kink thing here] should be enough to overcome their trepidation, you are shit and should not be doing kink things.
Being dominant does not just mean you get to boss people around. It means you have a RESPONSIBILITY to be WORTHY of the trust people place in you. If you can’t handle that, you should not call yourself dominant.
This has been a PSA.
The original tags are important too, and I don’t think they show up when I reblog: #this has been a PSA #met a guy on omegle tonight who was doing the copy paste message thing #looking for ‘f subs for a casual master/slave relationship’ #and I was like wow that cannot possibly get results #and he was like LOL WELL IT IS BETTER THAN DEALING WITH LIARS AND ROLEPLAYERS #and I was like well some people rp first to find out if you are trustworthy #and he was just like well that is shit if they want hypnosis they should let me do the hypnosis to them #and I was like look buddy I have pretended to be a sub to see what kind of shit people pull and there are people out there #who will say they respect your boundaries #and then turn around and keep trying to take you deeper until you agree to send nudes #and he was like lol I’ve done that my dick is I M P O R T A N T #and I was like YOU ARE THE PROBLEM #men are shit pass it on
This.
The hard (work) is what makes it great. (Apologies to Tom Hanks).
Original message is fully supported.
I do have a problem with one tag.
Synecdoche is a literary device wherein the whole of something is used to represent a part, or vice versa. Just as you understand when people say “Washington is corrupt” that they are referring to a notable trend among politicians in Washington rather than suggesting that literally every part of Washington, down to the last child, is corrupt, I use “men are shit” here as a way to comment on a notable trend among men.
And for the record, when you see a woman complaining about a notable trend she has observed among men and your response is to throw in a “not all men” comment to establish that you, obviously, should be taken as an exception, you’re kind of being shit. If this isn’t a thing you do, assume it’s not about you. But a quick search in tumblr’s “online dating” tag will uncover countless examples of men treating women like crap because they feel entitled to a woman’s affections (and relatively few examples of women doing this to anyone). Like, this isn’t even a comment on kink communities (though lord knows they have their fair share of shitty men). If it’s not a thing you do, assume I’m not talking about you. But in that case, the way to be part of the solution is to acknowledge this trend and commit to calling out your fellow men when they are being shit. Telling me that my venting about frustration with a notable trend among men (in the LAST of a long line of tags on a post that is clearly about me being frustrated with trends I’ve noticed) is entirely beside the point here.