When they need to know how much you love them:
* You make my day better.* You make my life better.
* I love spending time with you.
* Seeing your face makes me happy.
When they need to know you are ALL there:
* I’m listening.
* This time is all yours.
* How can I be a better _____ (parent, friend, spouse) to you?
* Nothing is more important than being with you right now.
When they are stressed or frustrated:
* How can I help?
* Take your time. You don’t have to rush.
* I think you are doing a tremendous job.
* Keep going. You got this.
When they experience failure:
* Be kind to yourself. You are doing the best you can.
* Mistakes mean you are bravely learning and growing.
* It may not be the outcome you hoped for, but I noticed your effort and it was quite remarkable.
* I believe in you.
When they face a challenge:
* I am amazed at how much you are handling right now.
* I am learning a lot from you by watching you do something so challenging.
* This isn’t over—there’s still time to turn this around.
* You are not alone.
The words “I love you” should never be underestimated, but every human being has a few words that make her soul come alive … that bring peace to his uncertain heart … that help them rise when they fall. Discover what those words are by watching—what makes her smile? What motivates him to keep trying? What adds a spring to his step? Commit those soul-building words to memory and say them as often as you can so that one day you are no longer needed to hear them.
This is so important.