Ladies, Boys, Followers, Kinksters,
if you’re into BDSM and you like the submissive role, carefully screen potential dates. While you’re both excitedly discussing all the things he/she could do to you, ask them about their aftercare. If they’ve clearly never given it any thought, if they seem to not understand why it’s important, if they don’t want to talk about it, don’t fuck them. And definitely don’t date them.
If they have 1,001 ideas for how to hurt you, and 0 ideas on how to bring you back afterward, they’re not a good dom and you should avoid them.
I would go further than that and say that they are an abuser.
