That’s a real good question…
I truly don’t know the answer to that but if anyone else does they are more than welcome to reblog and share their opinions. Any takers?while I don’t think being with a white person inherently makes you less pro-black – I think your partnerships and relationships with white people make you more visible and therefore more privileged/having more mobility in our society.
also – being with white folks romantically can be quite challenging because of set standards of beauty and desire being extremely white washed. In ways – you may come to realize your white partner as super average at best – not to mention their level of comprehension in regards to your journey through white supremacy and their ability to care for you while you’re being ‘anti-white’ or saying things that do not align with whiteness.
of course your white partner could truly be an ally – but that requires on going work and unless you’re willing to repeatedly check your partner and make space to process – which is not easy – you’ll be dealing with whiteness in your face 24/7 on an intimate level which makes it harder to call out/hold folks accountable.
