ok, slight tangent and I know you’re not talkin about all this, but I have thoughts on this.
Till really recently I called it a rabbit hole too.  In some ways it is, but I’ve started seeing it as more of a magical, downward sloping maze.  Not as catchy, I know. But the thing is, down is not the only direction. Â
It is true that the more you explore, the deeper and darker it can get.  But I’ve found that, in a long term relationship, you find things shift and change in ways you don’t expect.  I’ve seen the same person as my Sir, Daddy, Master, cuddly best friend, whatever.  And I’ve seen myself as a little girl, slut, it, princess, smoking hot woman, dirty little cunt.  You’re always turning corners, some more intense than others, and yes sometimes you do make a full u-turn and your relationship is so cuddly and sweet and gentle that it’s practically vanilla. But you’re still the same people with the same interests.  Vanilla and kinky are not polar opposites, with ‘nilla above ground and kinky down in the dark dirt.  You’re a dynamic, multidimensional, always changing individual, taking the most incredible journey around this maze that literally never ends.  There’s no need to stick to one single thing and stunt your personal growth by only looking down one road.
