theruleset:

The moments immediately after a sub says “red” are your most important as a top.

Stay calm. You’re the one in control.

DON’T:
Get mad
Get offended
Get upset
Get indignant
Get scared
Get lost
Get dismissive

Immediately put on your most calming, reassuring voice. This is a good thing! Now you know for sure the person you are playing with can stand up for their own boundaries. This will make your play together in the future all the better.