just a reminder that you’re allowed to be upset about things
even if you don’t understand why
even if the reasons are less about what’s happening now than they are about old pain or fears
even if other people have bigger reasons to be upset
even if no one can (or should have to) do anything to change the situation that upset you
even if you feel irrational for being upset
even if your own choices caused the thing that upsets you
you are entitled to feel what you actually feel. you’re responsible for your actions, yes, and for respecting boundaries and communicating appropriately without coercion – but you are allowed to be upset.
it is not inherently manipulative to be sad or angry or afraid or to tell people what you are feeling
you’re allowed.
your feelings are real and you’re allowed to acknowledge them.
