So, ally YOUR way or no ally at all? Isn’t that abusive towards someone that is offering allyship?
Instead of saying “here’s the point, and you’ve missed it”, care to clarify the point?
I see no point in “allyship” being comfortable. I mean, if you feel uncomfortable being an ally, why be one? If you are an ally, you should be comfortable with supporting the LGBT+ community.
Or is that not the point at all?
If not, then I’d like to ask something else that is still straying from “the point”: WHY does allyship have to be uncomfortable?
Because when you truly are able to engage in allyship that will require you to recognize that we are all living in an oppressive environment where we are taught, from day one things that ultimately hurt other people. That means calling yourself out constantly and recognizing that, YES, while you may not mean these things, you can be oppressive. And furthermore, while you may consider yourself an ally, you can still fuck up and perpetuate the harmful shit that people are trying to get away from. Allyship that’s worth something will require you to have uncomfortable conversations with people who are part of majority groups you belong to. It means calling out your friends, your family, etc and having conversations that may potentially alienate you.
