I feel like there are a million people who need to understand this.
wow this breakdown is actually super helpful to think about
[Image. A piece of paper with two columns.
The first column is titled: Brutal Honesty. Underneath is the text:
Makes only the truth-teller feel good
Assumes stupidity of the recipient
Isn’t necessarily vital for the recipient to know
Is usually expressed spontaneously
Is said out of irritation with the other person.
The second column is titled: Loving Honesty. Underneath is the text:
Is difficult for both speaker and recipient
Understands that the recipient is intelligent and can make the best decisions about his/her life
Is vital that the recipient know
Is usually expressed after a great deal of thought
Is offered out of concern for the other’s well-being.”]
