My advice of today for those in or considering polyamorous relationships: get good with yourself. “Spank your inner moppet” in the words of Cordelia Chase. If you’ve got lingering childhood fears of being abandoned, of not being good enough, of being ugly or undesirable, you’d better believe that shit will resurface when your partner tells you they’re looking forward to playing with their lover. Get yourself right. Jealousy can come from a lot of sources, but ultimately it tends to boil down to one of two fears: we’re not strong enough, or I’m not good enough. Face that. You’ll all be better for it.
