Hetfems are so fucking funny. They’re always saying that when they have a “disagreement” with another feminist they stick around and talk it out in the name of sisterhood, but that’s because they don’t suffer from the power imbalance. When lesbians argue with straight women about lesbophobia, it’s fucking painful for us. Educating het women about this shit takes emotional and intellectual labour, while straights can retreat in their ignorance and have the easy role in the conversation. When you’re privileged on one or several axes (it also happens in conversations about race, disability or any kind of oppression) it’s easy to “discuss” your differences of opinion because to you it’s just that. But the oppressed person has to defend herself against ideas that attack her very existence. And it’s exhausting. So yes, I’m going to block you if you’re a homophobe and I don’t care what you think.
