white ppl think it’s really funny to tell you you aren’t black because they have this idea of what blackness is in their heads and like somehow your experiences negate you from subscribing to their understanding of blackness. think about the kind of privilege you need to have in order to think you have the authority to NEGATE SOMEONES RACE AND ARBITRARILY EXCLUDE THEM FROM THEIR OWN GROUP just cause you say so!!! I’m going to scream!!!
happens with latinx too… while I understand my privilege as a light skinned latina my culture has been white washed my whole life and now I have to rediscover it for myself and I have had people have say shit like “but you aren’t really latina” or “yeah but you don’t seem hispanic though so its ok” cause I don’t fit some stereotype :/ My mums awful white family made my dad ashamed of his heritage so much that he didn’t teach his kids much spanish, even changed his name to Alex for like 20 years cause they were uncomfortable saying Alejandro, never was allowed to speak spanish around them, was told to wait in the car instead of coming into the house because he wasn’t welcome, constantly sent emails by them telling him to go ‘back to his country’, was verbally abused constantly ….the white part of my family systematically destroyed his sense of cultural identity which then in turn excluded me from my heritage. So thats why I don’t find it funny when white people negate my ethnicity… if I don’t seem Latina enough for your stereotype, just remember that it was white people who did that to me. They’re Imperialistic even on a personal level … fuck
^^ I feel so so much. I am only just now rediscovering my Salvadoran roots and I am pretty much on my own since my white mom does not care and my Salvi dad and gma are pretty ashamed of where they came from.
experiences like this are so important for us to share. this is why community is so vital to survival.
