To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move
One of my biggest challenges as a top—and as a feminist dominant, and as someone who is well versed in and vehemently requires agency and consent in my sexytime play—is making assertions of what I want. This is especially hard if I’m meeting or playing with somebody new. I want to be bold, domineering (in good ways), bossy (also in good ways), sexy—toppy. I want to demand and take and get just a…
This article recently won the Cynthia Slater Nonfiction Article Award from the National Leather Association! I’m so thrilled, thank you!!
