– Chances are their room is a disaster and they have -846 motivation to do anything about it. Helping them tidy up will make them feel a little less overwhelmed.
– Do their laundry. Even small chores seem to pile up when a person is depressed and not having clean clothes won’t make them feel any better. Washing their bedding is also great.
– Try to convince them to go for a short walk with you. There is a good chance they will feel a lot better after.
– If you can’t get them outside, at least open a window for fresh air and let some sunshine in.
– Prepare them a healthy meal with some fresh fruit. Many depressed people fall into bad eating patterns.
– If they aren’t eating enough, make sure they are taking a multi vitamin since not getting enough of a vitamin causes depression
– Make them a warm, nice smelling bath. Aromatherapy is a great way to treat depression and anxiety.
– Write them a letter or card to read for when they’re feeling really bad.
– Make them a recovery playlist with some of their favourite songs and anything up lifting.
– Make them laugh.
– Make them a cup of tea and sit with them.
– Listen to them and try to understand what they’re feeling.
I’m dating someone who does this stuff and more for me. For the first time ever. It’s really a blessing and not a day goes by that I don’t appreciate all of the little things, because at the end of the day they are actually the big things. Take care of your lovers.
Pay attention to whom your energy increases and decreases around, because that’s the universe giving you a hint of who you should embrace or stray from.
SB:
I’m waitin’ on you. This is your job. I’m waitin’ on you…
Cop:
You seem very irritated.
SB:
I am. I really am because I feel like what I’m getting a ticket for, I was
getting out of your way. You were speeding up, tailing me, so I move over, and
you stop me. So, yeah, I am a little irritated, but that doesn’t stop you from
giving me a ticket.
Cop:
Are you done?
SB:
You asked me what was wrong and I told you. So now I’m done, yeah.
Cop:
Ok. You mind putting out your cigarette, please?
SB:
I’m in my car. Why do I have to put out my cigarette?
Cop:
Well you can step on out now.
SB:
I don’t have to step out of my car.
Cop:
Step out of the car. [Cop opens the car door] Step out.
SB:
No, you don’t have the right-
Cop:
Step out of the car!
SB:
You do not have the right to do that.
Cop:
I do have the right. Now, step out or I will remove you.
SB:
I refuse to talk to you other than to identify myself-
Cop:
Step out or I will remove you.
SB:
I am getting removed for a failure to-
Cop:
Step out or I will remove you. I’m giving you a lawful order. Get out of the
car now or I’m gonna remove you.
SB:
I’m calling my-
Cop:[Cop
reaches into the car] I’m gonna yank you out of here.
SB:
Okay, you gonna yank me out of my car?
Cop:
Get out.
SB:
Ok. Alright. Let’s do this. Don’t touch me.
Cop:
Get out of the car!
SB:
Don’t touch me! I’m not under arrest. You don’t have the right to-
Cop:
You ARE under arrest.
SB:
I’m under arrest for what? For what? For what?
Cop:
Get out of the car. Get out of the car! Now!
SB:
Why am I being apprehended? Because you’re trying to give me a ticket for a
failure-
Cop:
I said get out of the car.
SB:
Why am I being apprehended? You opened
my car door-
Cop:
I am gonna drag you outta here.
SB:
So you’re threatening to drag me out of my own car?
Cop:
Get out of the car!!
SB:
And then you-
Cop:
[Cop points his taser at her.] I will light you up!!
SB:
Wow.
Cop:
NOW!!
SB:
Wow. [Sandra steps out of the car.]
Cop:
Get out of the car!
SB:
For a failure to signal, you’re doing all this. You’re doing all this for a
failure to signal.
Cop:
Get over there. [Cop points her over to the sidewalk, while pointing his taser
at her.]
SB:
Right. Yeah. Let’s take this to court. [Sandra continues to walk toward the
sidewalk.] Let’s do this for a failure to signal. Yep, for a failure to signal.
[Sandra is led out of the view of the dashcam video.]
Cop:
Get off the phone.
SB:
I’m not on the phone. I have a right to record-
Cop:
Put your phone down.
SB:
This is my property.
Cop:
Put your phone down.
SB:
Sir?
Cop:
Put your phone down. Right now! Put your phone down.
SB:
[Sandra puts her phone down on the trunk of her car.] For a fucking failure to
signal, my goodness.
Cop:
Come over here!
SB:
Y’all are interesting. You feelin’ good about this whole thing?
Cop:
Stand right here.
SB:
You feelin’ good about yourself? For my failure to signal, you feel real good
about yourself, don’t you?
Cop:
Turn around.
SB:
You feel good about yourself, don’t you?
Cop:
Turn around. Turn around now. Put your hands-
SB:
Why am I being arrested?
Cop:
I’m giving you a lawful order. I will tell you-
SB:
Why am I being arrested? Why can’t you tell me that part?
Cop:
I’m giving you a lawful order. Turn around.
SB:
Why will you not tell me what’s going on?
Cop:
You are not compliant.
SB:
I’m not compliant ‘cause you just pulled me outta my car.
Cop:
Turn around!!
SB:
Are you fucking kidding me? This is some bullshit.
Cop:
Put your hands behind your back.
SB:
Cause you know this is straight bullshit, and you full a shit. Full a straight
shit. That’s why y’all are some scary fucking cops. South Carolina got all y’all
bitch asses scared. That’s all it is. Fucking scared of a female.
Cop:
If you would have just listened-
SB:
I was tryin’ sign the fucking ticket. Whatever.
Cop:
Stop movin’!
SB:
Are you fucking serious?
Cop:
Stop movin’.
SB:
Oh, I can’t wait till we go to court. OH,
I can’t wait! I cannot WAIT ‘till we go to court! I can’t wait. OH, I can’t
wait. You want me to sit down now?
Cop:
No.
SB:
Oh, you gonna throw me to the floor? That’ll make you feel better about
yourself?
Cop:
Knock it off.
SB:
Ah, that’ll make you feel better about yourself? That make you feel real good,
won’t it? Fucking ass. Fucking pussy. For a failure to signal, you doin’ all of
this. In little ass Prairie View, Texas. My god. They must-
Cop:
You were getting a warning, and now you’re going to jail.
SB:
For what??
Cop:
You can come read right- [Cop leads Sandra back over to the trunk of the car.]
SB:
I’m getting a warning for what?
Cop:
Stay right here.
SB:
You just pointed me over there!
Cop:
I said stay right here.
SB:
Get your fucking mind right. OH, I swear on my life, y’all some pussies. A
pussy ass cop pulls for a fucking signal, you’re takin’ me to jail. What a
pussy. What a pussy. What a- you about to break my fucking wrist.
Cop:
Stop movin’!
SB:
I’m standin’ still! You keep movin’ me, goddamn it!
Cop:
Stay right there.
SB:
Don’t touch me. Fucking pussy, for a traffic ticket.
Cop:
[Goes around the car and closes the front door. Walks back off screen to where
Sandra is on the sidewalk.] Come read right over here. [He stands by the trunk
of the car and shows her the written warning.] This right here says a warning.
YOU started creating a problem. [Cop walks out of shot, toward Sandra.]
SB:
You asked me what was wrong!
Cop:
Do you have anything in your purse that’s illegal?
SB:
Do I look like I have anything on me? This a fuckin’ maxi dress!
Cop:
I’m removing your glasses.
SB:
This a maxi dress.
Cop:
Come on over here.
SB:
Fucking assholes. For a- you about to break my wrist! Can you STOP!? You are
mother fuckin’ about to break my wrist! [Sandra makes sounds of pain.] STOOOPP!
Cop:
[Sounds of struggle.] Stop! Now! Stop it!
Cop
2: Stop resisting, ma’am.
Cop:
If you would stop then I would tell you!
SB:
[In pain.] For a fucking traffic ticket.
Cop:
Now stop!
SB:
[In pain.] You are such a pussy. You are such a pussy.
Cop
2: No, you are.
Cop:
You were yankin’ around.
SB:
[In pain.] For a traffic signal.
Cop:
You were yankin’ around. When you pull away from me, you’re resisting arrest.
SB:
This make you feel real good. This make you feel real good, don’t it? A female
for a traffic signal. For a traffic
signal. I know that makes you feel good, officer.
Cop
2: I got her. I got her.
SB:
I know it make you feel real good. You a real man now. You slam me, knock my
head into the ground, I got epilepsy, you mother fucker.
Cop:
Good. Good.
SB:
I hope I-
Cop
2: You should have thought of that before you start resisting!
SB:
Yeah, this is real good. Real good for a female. Yeah. Y’all strong, ooh. Y’all
real strong.
Cop:
I want you to wait right here. Wait right here.
SB:
I can’t go nowhere with your fucking knee on my back. Duh.
Cop:
[To Cop 2] I’m gonna open your door. [To man recording the brutality.] You need
to leave. You need to leave. You need to leave.
SB:
[inaudible] For a fucking traffic ticket.
Cop:
For a warning. For a warning. You’re going to jail for resisting arrest. Stand
up.
SB:
If I could!
Cop:
Roll over.
SB:
I can’t even fuckin’ feel my arm!
Cop:
Tuck your knee in.
SB:
I can’t-
Cop:
Listen, listen, you’re gonna sit up on your butt.
SB:
You just slammed my head into the ground. Do you not even care about that?
Cop
2: He’s telling you to getup.
SB:
I can’t even hear!
Cop
2: Yes you can.
Cop:
Sit on your butt.
SB:
You slammed my head into the ground.
Cop:
Sit up on your butt.
SB:
He threw my fucking head to the ground. What the hell?
Cop:
Now stand up.
SB:
All this for a traffic signal. I swear to god. All of this for a traffic
signal. [To witness.] Thank you for recording! Thank you! For a traffic signal.
Slammed me into the ground and everything.
Everything. I hope y’all feel good.
Remember when we kept telling y’all, white tumblr, that “know your rights” and all those videos of y’all talking to cops however you please was only for y’all? That it was white privilege? Yeah.
This is so incredibly sick. And they’re getting away with this AND more…
This is a resource post for all the Good White Person™s out there. You know, the ones who say things like “It’s not my fault I’m white! Don’t generalize white people!”, or “I’m appreciating your culture! You should be proud!”, or “Why do you hate all white people, look I’m a special snowflake who’s not racist give me an award for meeting the minimum requirements for being a decent human being”.
Well, if you are actually interested in understanding racism and how it ties into cultural appropriation, please read instead of endlessly badgering PoCs on tumblr with your cliched, unoriginal arguments and repeating the same questions over and over.
On White Privilege aka don’t blame me just because I’m white:
The Angry Black Woman stereotype can mean getting mocked and overlooked like Nicki Minaj or beaten and killed like Sandra Bland.
People think these stereotypes are innocuous when the former happens without realizing that the same stereotypes are the underlying justifications for bigger issues like state violence.
why is Sandra Bland lying down in her mugshot picture?? why is she already in a jumpsuit and why does she look so disoriented if not already dying? who thought that they’d be fooling anyone with this mugshot
